For me, being a S(Hero) in the Indian society is as simple as ABCDE. It is a five step process that will help you transform yourself and this transformation in turn will help you change the lives of the women in your life, too. Let’s get to it, shall we?
Awaken yourself from your sleep
We, Indian, women have forever been in hibernation. Yes, we do wake up once in a while to achieve greatness but unfortunately, it is quite short lived. It is a mere speck in the vast history of being tormented by both men and even women. If you want to be S(Hero) it is high time you realize that you need to be alive and kicking if you want to make a difference; first in your life and then in others.
Believe in yourself
I get it! We all have been conditioned all our lives to doubt our own abilities but as clichéd as it sounds if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody ever will. The Indian society’s
Just a few days back I saw a message on Facebook proudly stating that one daughter is not tension, she is equal to Ten Sons. I saw hundreds of people, my friends included who happily shared this photograph with each other with some or the other inspiring message. But this post made my blood boil in anger! Why can’t one girl be equal to just one happy girl. Why does she have to bear the burden of being equivalent of 10 boys? So the day she decides to let go of this burden, will she become worthless? The Indian society, while trying to say that they believe in their women now, still continues to compare them to men thus shattering their self esteem of being just a regular woman.
Never aspire to be a man; you on your own are a beautiful gift to this world.
Confront not conform
Conformation begins in our childhood where we are encouraged to be squeaky clean whereas boys get to have all the fun rolling in the mud. Watch any Indian TV ad with children in it and focus on the roles of the male child and the female child. You will see a cute girl and a mischievous boy. Why can’t these roles be reversed?
Why can’t we be confrontational about small things that we are made to conform to? One of the things that will help us break the shackles that bind us is the power of our questions. Just ask a simple ‘why should I’ any time somebody expects you to do something that is against your beliefs and let the world know that you are not going to bow down to its wishes anymore.
Dare to Dream
Your dreams need not be ginormous and gigantic, they can be teeny tiny, too. It does not matter what you dream of doing; you need to dare to let the world know that you have a mind of your own and your dreams matter.
Exceed everyone’s expectations? Nah
I am sure I have made a few eyebrows raise at this one, but seriously, the only person’s expectations that you need to exceed is just yourself. We women love the label of being multitaskers. We want to flip omelets with one hand, pack our bags with the other, even as we are on the phone with our bosses going through an important presentation. Phew! Being a human being should not be this tiring. Yet we “modern women” are kept on a pedestal; we are larger than lives personas who don’t even pause to take a breath in the guilt that we are not doing enough. So throw everybody’s expectations in the dustbin and work towards fulfilling your own.
Being a S(Hero) of our Indian society begins with you and once you spark off a change in yourself you can hope to change the world one day.